For years I wrote several regular columns for the now defunct parenting publication Treasure Valley Family Magazine. For twenty years, from 1993-2013, TVFM was the premier resource for all things family in the greater Boise area. It was a printed magazine and free and you could pick it up anywhere in much of Idaho monthly. It featured a lengthy and detailed calendar of family friendly events, classes, camps and was THE place for businesses to advertise. There were stories on so many different topics, many of which I had the honor to write from about 2010 until it closed in the summer of 2013. One was called Park Playtime, where I reviewed a different park or outdoor play place in the greater Boise area. This was so fun and easy for me because I also organized a local mama and kids weekly playgroup where we got together to hang out once a week so I had a built in review committee to help. I am always the mom with all the snacks and the toys. If you follow me you know that we still love exploring new off the beaten path places and parks and swimming holes. I recently dug out a bunch of the archives and shared some fun old articles on my favorite things to do with kids in Boise and beyond I wrote in my Instagram Stories, many of which are still family favorites. (Here’s the link to see them if you follow me on Instagram, which I totally recommend watching.) I also got to write so many different types of stories, from Idaho road trips with kids to my favorite places to shop for really specific things, like birthday cakes and handmade holiday gifts and slices of pizza.
The other favorite I wrote for the magazine was always the feature on the last page, a more personal essay, something my editor offered to me and I jumped at the chance and called it Somewhere Over The Laundry Pile. I was already a prominent local “mommy blogger” (this blog turns 14 next month!) and I was thrilled to have her faith in my personal way of storytelling. (Related: a fan one described me as a contemporary Erma Bombeck and it’s one of my favorite compliments to date.)
In it I wrote 500 words about things like trying to make time for a date with my husband and talking to my kids about hard things and how being a stay at home mom sometimes sucked and about getting my kids - and myself - to give up all devices for an extended period. I wrote these columns every single month and got paid to do so and had freedom and integrity and was able to use my own voice and I loved it so much. It’s been almost nine years now since the magazine closed down but I’m so grateful for that opportunity to use my own unique voice for my take on motherhood to such an important audience and the magazine such a lifesaving thing for parents with young kids in Boise for so many of us.
As I sat on my basement floor reading so many of these articles I wrote for so many years, I was brought to tears by my honesty, my openness, my vulnerability. I was shocked that I shared so many raw and unfiltered things - and that my editor trusted me and let me write them. This column quickly became a beloved column and I gained a lot of fans from those days - many older moms like me who still stop me in the grocery store to tell me how much they’ve loved my work from those days. The Somewhere Over The Laundry Pile piece that really really stuck out to me was the one I wrote in the July 2011 issue, eleven-and-a-half years ago now. It was called Accepting Me, and I wrote bravely and loudly about my discovery of the fat acceptance movement and shared my weight publicly and how I had spent a lifetime struggling with body shame and beauty standards that I didn’t want to pass on to my daughters. This was after two and a half years spent immersing myself in the literature and blogs and making changes in my own life to feel like I could whisper this subversion to the universe, except instead of whispering it to a few friends I published it in the most popular and widely read women’s magazine in most of Idaho at the time LOL. Here it is, transcribed below, because it no longer exists online and I really, really think it should. (I’ll share the text below the image.)
Feeling nostalgic for this writing gig and for my tiny babies lately. True to motherhood, as life just moves so quickly and you’re so caught up in the moment of right now, I’d forgotten so many of these things ever happened and that I’d written about them. I wish I could just post all the archives here because I’m still so incredibly moved and proud of everything I wrote in this magazine, of the way we touched and helped families’ lives, of the way I was so true to myself while figuring out the most important job I’ll ever have - being a mother. While I may no longer have a print outlet so supportive (oh, and if you’ve been here long you know how many publications I wrote for before and after Treasure Valley Family Magazine that were a shitshow), I always have this blog and social media as a place to currently share my voice with bigger audiences and I’m forever grateful. To those of you here, new and old, who find hope and strength and themselves in my words. Thank you for reading.